Showing posts with label resilience. Show all posts
Showing posts with label resilience. Show all posts

Thursday, June 21, 2012

The Link Between Relationships and Resilience



Source:
Bryan Samuels, Commissioner
Administration on Children, Youth and Families
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services


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Speaking as a former foster youth, another way to express this truth might be that:

  • Pain came into our lives through relationships
  • Healing can enter our lives that way, too
Lisa

The Difference Between Physical And Emotional Safety



Tips for Foster Parents:

  • Limit stimulation - be patient and take a slower pace in introducing newness ("welcome to your new foster home, there are all the rules, now let's meet everybody in the household"), because this speed of incoming data can be cognitively understood, but is emotionally overwhelming.
  • Follow the lead of the child. 
  • Follow the pace of the child.
Tips for Caseworkers:
  • Be aware that Transition Points are emotional hot spots
  • The internal alarm goes off, signaling danger
  • Child welfare has a tendency to try to make moves as quick as possible -- this is not in the best interest of the child, in terms of making them feel safe
Goal:

  • To create a place of safety for the child / teenager
  • To avoid re-traumatizing the child through further abrupt disruption
  • To create a place of order, rather than chaos.
  • To create a sense of control, rather than instability.
  • To teach the child self-regulation.


Source:
Bryan Samuels, Commissioner
Administration on Children, Youth and Families
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services